Some issues I had as a school student, and still have many decades later is that:
– adults can often speak nonsense
– adults are often illogical with what they say, so I need to clarify
– adults expect you to conform to social norms that are nonsense or illogical
– adults often think that just because they are adults, that what they say is correct
– adults often make up rules, just for the fun of exerting control over non-adults
– adults often assume that all non-adults are stupid or less intelligent than them
– adults often make requests that make no sense.
– adults hate being treated, and spoken to, as an equal
Managers and bosses often have these same bad traits when dealing with their subordinates – or their team.

Recently, I have been working with an army officer who requests very directly and unambiguously. Some other workers think that she is rude, I just think that she removes the pseudo-politeness.

My family lived to England while I was in junior high school. The common theme in England to crowd control was to say “You wouldn’t want to be the odd one out”.
As I was the only foreign-born student in the school, that didn’t make a lot of sense.
No-one really expected me to understand the ‘proper’ way to do things, so that enabled me to do my own thing.

One example of English pseudo-politeness is — “Do you mind if I comment that I don’t think that is a good idea” Is that a question or a direction?
I eventually worked out that it meant “STOP THAT NOW!”

I really think that ODD can be a resistance to conform to nonsensical demands. At least in my case – (because it is not my fault — Ha Ha)