Comments on: How ADHD Ignites Rejection Sensitive Dysphoria https://www.additudemag.com/rejection-sensitive-dysphoria-and-adhd/ ADHD symptom tests, ADD medication & treatment, behavior & discipline, school & learning essentials, organization and more information for families and individuals living with attention deficit and comorbid conditions Mon, 01 May 2023 17:49:59 +0000 hourly 1 https://wordpress.org/?v=6.1.1 By: khammo01 https://www.additudemag.com/rejection-sensitive-dysphoria-and-adhd/comment-page-2/#comment-303063 Tue, 15 Nov 2022 17:53:03 +0000 https://www.additudemag.com/?p=26088#comment-303063 Wow. To erase any doubt, yeah this RSD totally describes me. In my case, not so much fear of the outside but the negative self talk and maladaptive adjustment to external stimuli that threaten my ADHD safety bubble. Anything that moves me off my path of self comfort and ADHD focus area is traumatic and anger inducing and this helps to understand why.

I was recently diagnosed ADHD in my 50s but in my case it is the impulsivity is the main symptom, that results in anger, stress and anxiety, which appears to be caused by RSD. My doctor prescribed Adderall which has helped with focus issues but done almost nothing for the RSD related stuff. I’m going to try to find a psychiatrist and inquire about guanfacine, as I suspect much of the classic attention / focus issues are due to RSD .

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By: largeandcoolelephant https://www.additudemag.com/rejection-sensitive-dysphoria-and-adhd/comment-page-2/#comment-287286 Wed, 20 Apr 2022 04:07:56 +0000 https://www.additudemag.com/?p=26088#comment-287286 “Psychotherapy does not particularly help patients with RSD because the emotions hit suddenly and completely overwhelm the mind and senses.”

I think it is irresponsible to say that psychotherapy doesn’t help patients with RSD. You are underselling the value of therapy in helping people to identify and understand their internal processes and develop coping skills for RSD reactions. The article reads like a love letter to psychiatry from that point. You have lost a regular reader and advocate for your website.

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By: gianffer https://www.additudemag.com/rejection-sensitive-dysphoria-and-adhd/comment-page-2/#comment-286913 Thu, 31 Mar 2022 17:52:08 +0000 https://www.additudemag.com/?p=26088#comment-286913 Hello, I wonder if anyone is still reading this article/comments. I am really interested in taking a deep dive into RSD. I do think it’s very real. And I wonder, is it limited to only being a do connected with ADHD? My hypothesis is that it isn’t. And like many traits of many diagnosis, I think there is a continuum. I wonder about how with ADHD RSD is entangled with attachment issues? And that it could be that RSD in general is connected to attachment issues. I can imagine that for a person living with ADHD traits, not being seen and felt, or mirrored or whatever terms you want to sue for attunement between parent and child, can really lead to the dysregulation us ADHD’ers or VAST folk, struggle with. Feeling misunderstood, or not having a significant parental figure be able to meet you where you are at, accept you and soothe you, or in the long run, learn how to self soothe, creates many problematic psychological challenges. I don’t know that I am high on the RSD. I’ve done a lot of therapy and I am a counselor and learning to become a coach for ADHD. And I think this diagnosis is so at the heart of many struggles we live with. That’s why I think it’s so important and I don’t think the first person who posted was being at all disrespectful, I heard it as inclusive. BUt, I did just “skim” it and would have to read it again. I think it’s all very real and very important. I wonder how I would know if any of this is still being read????

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By: JUDI RUPPEL https://www.additudemag.com/rejection-sensitive-dysphoria-and-adhd/comment-page-2/#comment-136216 Sun, 27 Jun 2021 04:23:39 +0000 https://www.additudemag.com/?p=26088#comment-136216 RSD is an issue that I see with my child. Is it an effect of ADHD or is it caused by the unrelenting negative messages that ADHD children and adults receive multiple times every single day? Who wouldn’t become sensitive if all you hear is criticism? The negative messaging is hugely damaging to self esteem and anyone who is neuro-atypical gets hammered. Of course people with ADHD have RSD. I wouldn’t expect anything less. Neuro typicals wouldn’t be able to survive the constant messages of failure and as parents, we climb a steep mountain lugging a slab of concrete daily to counteract the damage.

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By: bigguy1221 https://www.additudemag.com/rejection-sensitive-dysphoria-and-adhd/#comment-120931 Tue, 08 Dec 2020 21:35:43 +0000 https://www.additudemag.com/?p=26088#comment-120931 Dr Dobson is usually spot on over a long time and on multiple subjects. Weigh his logic and reach your own conclusions but as someone who reads with critical thinking skills and a lifetime of experiences with the subject I would assume he’s right about what he says until something pretty powerful and overwhelming makes a lot more sense than Dr. Dobson. That goes for Drs Hallowel and Ratey. If you devote your professional life to diagnosis and treatment of people with issues chances are almost certain the comments they make are well intended and any small perceived error in communication or tone from word choices ought to be overlooked and ignored. its the big picture that matters. All those people are as good as it gets in the world of adhd. Be grateful for what they share and what they’ve learned. Disagree civilly and i’m now off my soapbox. Happy Holidays to everyone.

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By: drblanch https://www.additudemag.com/rejection-sensitive-dysphoria-and-adhd/#comment-120266 Thu, 29 Oct 2020 14:24:22 +0000 https://www.additudemag.com/?p=26088#comment-120266 Oh also: my son has it, I married someone with it, both of my grandparents have symptoms of it, my great grandfather most likely had it, my cousins kid has it, it’s all over my family. Jenny Blanchard, DO

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By: wchadwick https://www.additudemag.com/rejection-sensitive-dysphoria-and-adhd/#comment-119148 Fri, 09 Oct 2020 20:18:49 +0000 https://www.additudemag.com/?p=26088#comment-119148 I have no doubt that Rejection Sensitive Dysphoria is a thing, but I’m having trouble finding academic sources. Does anyone have any references to academic Journal articles about RSD?

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By: tnbalsam https://www.additudemag.com/rejection-sensitive-dysphoria-and-adhd/#comment-118286 Sat, 26 Sep 2020 00:06:55 +0000 https://www.additudemag.com/?p=26088#comment-118286 Cross-posting from another website I commented this on as it feels appropriate, and that it contributes to the discussion:

Can’t wait until people start recognizing ADHD as being linked to dissociation spectrum disorders.
These are not novel symptoms. This is not unexpected. This is exactly what you’d expect to see from someone benefitting from/struggling with dissociation. ADHD is highly correlated with trauma in a lot of ways, it really needs to stop being its own subclinical diagnosis.

This is the reason that a purely categorical system is so dangerous for the mental health narrative in the US & etc. Van der Kolk and co have worked a ton at bringing complex trauma into the narrative, but the politics of the scene really don’t allow for that as much, at least at the broader levels that I can see.

What you get with a purely categorical system is reinventing the wheel many times over without being able to connect seemly disparate concepts, a common problem with attempting to model a higher dimensional problem with a lower dimensional projection. You lose your locality constraints because things can’t reasonably live “next to” each other, and so you get branching tree structures that are clones or near-clones of each other.

Someday we’ll move past this. RSD is just another name for a protector response, which is generally mediated by the lack of the prefrontal cortex operating as much as it does normally paired with the fight-or-flight (+ the other fs) resulting from an engrained trauma response. You also get shutdowns, etc that aren’t accurately described by RSD, because it fails to capture the breadth of what’s actually going on behind the scenes there.

Unfortunately the state of mental health in America is rather barbaric at the moment, it’ll in all likeliness be the thing we look back on in 50 years like we do at smoking. However, it’s a good reminder that even though we’re at the latest year we’ve ever been to as a world, we’re not “all the way there” on things, and never quite/exactly will be.

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By: chaotik_lord https://www.additudemag.com/rejection-sensitive-dysphoria-and-adhd/#comment-107008 Sat, 06 Jun 2020 11:38:15 +0000 https://www.additudemag.com/?p=26088#comment-107008 Like a couple of commenters above, I was misdiagnosed with BPD by one doctor during a hospitalization. I was diagnosed with AdD & ADHD at about 2 1/2 years of age and was on medication for it from age 3 to around sometime in my preteen years (the fact that I vividly remember the start of it may be an indication of either how many meds I was on by the time they were stopped, but is just as likely the hectic stress of those preteen years). Later in life, I would be diagnosed with autism spectrum disorder (it was still Asperger’s in that version of the DSM), which was much more appropriate. I remember my frustration with the BPD diagnosis because the doctor wasn’t listening, and I did not have the identity issues of BPD; I’ve always had a strong and constant sense of self. I also did not have the history of abuse often seen with BPD. I don’t want to go through all the symptoms I didn’t have; fortunately future doctors were better and there is no BPD diagnosis following me around. However, the rejection fear is real. It is a learned fear, I believe., because my social skills are off-putting and making friends and forming relationships has been a miracle when I managed to make it happen. The idea of losin one of those presents extreme trauma. As a person dependent on routines in every sense, the disruption is as bad as the isolation. When I moved here nearly five years ago, I had also experienced such a relationship loss of my best friend and roommate of 8 years, who had moved out and briefly stopped talking to me as a result of how unwound I became because of the distress I was left in. I haven’t made any friends since I moved here, because the overtures I’ve tried were rebuffed and I can’t go through the rejection again. I can’t handle the disruption again. Friends move away, but growing up, I would lose my only friend after a couple of years because I said something wrong: awkward, unintentionally rude, too embarrassing, and no amount of apologies or begging would fix it. These weren’t mean or offensive kind of things, the worst I recall was that I told Rosie M. That she was getting a mustache. I didn’t know she was sensitive about it and I was just making an observation. When she was upset, no sincere apologies did any good; her mother even tried to intercede but Rosie was immovable. And so it was many times. You learn not to say or do a thing that would never strike you as horrible, but you don’t know the rules so it’s a minefield. So I think rejection sensitivity comes from this kind of reinforcement. I had never heard it associated with ADD/ADHD or ASD and so post misdiagnosis with BPD that one time, I was afraid to even talk about fear of rejection because I know it goes to BPD so quickly. Seeing that it exists under the ADD/ADHD umbrella will give me the courage to bring it up in a therapeutic setting. Thanks.

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By: bluejfk https://www.additudemag.com/rejection-sensitive-dysphoria-and-adhd/#comment-58114 Mon, 09 Mar 2020 16:40:37 +0000 https://www.additudemag.com/?p=26088#comment-58114 It has been my experience that RSD is not the full picture. I feel it encompasses a larger set of traits. Most ADHD adults I have encountered that have RSD also do not take unanticipated compliments well. I myself will deflect them with a self deprecating remark.

It is as if we are casting aside a compliment from someone because that they are trying to connect without having been vetted first. And that vetting is simply “Are you judgmental?”

In order to have the sense of controlling judgement, I will throw out a wildly disturbing joke know that there will be people who say “You are terrible” to people who try not to laugh but lose total control.

When I met my wife for dinner she texted me that there was a 30 minute waiting period. My wife gives amazing hugs, so when I found her she gave a full melt hug and said “I am comfortably numb. You’re like Cosby but without the quaaludes ” and someone behind me told me how awful I was and I just smirked, because I knew there would someone I would offend. I was ok because I felt in control of their judgement.

I you are coaching a kid with RSD and you establish that when you deliver consequence it will be without the tone of judgement, it is so easy to get them to pivot. Works every time.

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By: Kevinaje https://www.additudemag.com/rejection-sensitive-dysphoria-and-adhd/#comment-57923 Wed, 04 Mar 2020 03:08:57 +0000 https://www.additudemag.com/?p=26088#comment-57923 There are a few problems with this article (and other internet material I have seen on RSD):

1. What is described as RSD is claimed to be exclusive to ADHD, but similar experiences have been described in conditions such as borderline personality disorder; also, what is described as RSD can describe symptoms of early childhood trauma. The material I have seen thus far online, including this article, do not sufficiently address this or account for the possibility that RSD is actually a manifestation of trauma.

2. Dr. Dodson does not differentiate between RSD directly caused by ADHD versus RSD that may actually be caused by children with ADHD having an increased exposure to trauma, and/or kids with ADHD possibly being more sensitive to their environments. In terms of trauma, we know that kids with ADHD are more likely to experience mistreatment. One may argue that RSD is the result of ADHD mediated through trauma, but this would be problematic because ADHD does not cause child maltreatment (people who maltreat are responsible). It is quite likely that kids with ADHD are more sensitive to their environments, but this paints a more complicated picture of ‘nature’ and ‘nurture’ interacting than the implication that RSD is ‘nature.’

3. Dr. Dodson does not present research supporting his claims on RSD. This article, and other material I have seen on RSD thus far, does not point to scientific literature. While an article written for a public audience will not go into detail, it is common for educational material written for a public audience to reference peer reviewed studies on a topic when they exist. I searched for peer-reviewed articles from Dr. Dodson on this topic and came up empty-handed. I have not seen other researchers examine Dr. Dodson’s claims either. Granted, I did do a minimal search in only one database, but that search pulled up irrelevant articles, which I have found is a pretty good indication that literature on a topic is lacking.

Presumably Dr. Dodson’s work on RSD is informed by his clinical interactions with patients. Not all clinicians have training or inclination to do research, but one would hope that there would at least be some case studies in the literature. Case studies are a low bar as far as scientific evidence is concerned (they are generally good for identifying topics for more research and cannot get at the issue of confounding, which is the issue I have raised regarding RSD possibly being caused by trauma) but case studies would at least provide a foundation for research with better methods.

Some clarifications:

A. I am not saying that RSD is not distinct to ADHD, and I am not saying that RSD is caused by trauma. I am saying that: 1) the material I have seen on RSD thus far does not sufficiently distinguish RSD from similar experiences that have been described outside of people with ADHD; and 2) the material I have seen on RSD thus far does not sufficiently address the possibility that RSD may be caused by ‘nurture’ rather than ‘nature.’

B. I am not disputing the experiences of those who report RSD. I am just saying that we do not know if those experiences are best described as an inevitable or fundamental part of ADHD. (Re-read point A above.)

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By: M84 https://www.additudemag.com/rejection-sensitive-dysphoria-and-adhd/#comment-54157 Tue, 21 Jan 2020 14:23:35 +0000 https://www.additudemag.com/?p=26088#comment-54157 I’m 35 as of typing this and have professional diagnoses of ADD (at ages 6 and 30,) and Asperger’s/ASD-1 (30,) and just use your imagination to imagine how RSD and autistic meltdowns play out for someone trying to hold a job with un-diagnosed Asperger’s… That said, I personally have found that whether I’m on (stimulant) ADD meds or not makes a *huge* difference in being able to maintain control. (Straterra…I get more effects than placebo, but it’s just not very effective for me and I was having RSD-triggered meltdowns as often while on it as unmedicated.) I’m more prone to meltdowns, RSD or otherwise, when my sensory “buffers” are overloaded, and ADD meds to seem to take some of the edge off of that and allow those buffers to fill at a slower rate.

I also actually *did* find keeping in mind what I’d learned in CBT helped, though the text of the article makes it sound like my results in that regard are less common… I’ve been at my current job for a little over half a year and there’s been several situations where I would’ve melted down in the past, (or booked it to a stall in the women’s room to meltdown ASAP afterwards,) where I didn’t, and I honestly think it’s a mix of Adderall (I find the side-effects less troublesome than Ritalin’s, but that’s just my body,) and CBT.

I remember that, around 4th grade or so, my parents tried Chlonodine (with Ritalin,) possibly for this very condition, (the documentation is long since gone and my parents can’t remember that sort of detail at their ages,) but it didn’t help with spit and I came close to passing out so often that they stopped. (Granted, this was right around the time that Asperger’s was entering the DSMIV-TR, so there was this whole other factor that was never being addressed. Add on that autistic brains don’t always handle Brain Medicine like non-autistic brains with the same condition do… I don’t begrudge anyone–just wish we knew then what we know now.)

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By: ADHDSTE https://www.additudemag.com/rejection-sensitive-dysphoria-and-adhd/#comment-50890 Wed, 20 Nov 2019 12:31:33 +0000 https://www.additudemag.com/?p=26088#comment-50890 I find the lack of knowledge about MAOIs frustrating. None of the ADHD articles I read even talk about the newer REVERSIBLE MAOIs. This might be because they are not licenced in the USA, but here in the UK, I am precribed Moclobemide, which is one of these newer types, which DO NOT interact with matured foods, the way the older ones do. I have been very impressed with this medication. I was diagnosed with ADHD earlier this year in my late 30s, and suggested to try this medication, after finding that several others, including SSRIs and SNRIs had side effects including making me feel more hyperactive. I have found this medication brilliant, I just feel normal and calmer. I don’t know why they are not licenced in America, but it is very affective, low side effects. and it definitely helps both anxiety/reactivity and also I feel more focused I think. But could the people at ADDitude mag and the podcast look into these details about MAOIs.

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By: JCM1980 https://www.additudemag.com/rejection-sensitive-dysphoria-and-adhd/#comment-50869 Tue, 19 Nov 2019 13:57:22 +0000 https://www.additudemag.com/?p=26088#comment-50869 I’m 39 and was diagnosed with ADHD 1 year ago. I’ve always been hyper emotional, especially when faced with rejection or disapproval. I’ve always wondered why. How come other people didn’t react the way I did when faced with a similar set of circumstances? I assumed I was flawed or weak. This makes sense to me.

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By: marta.bloem.rose@gmail.com https://www.additudemag.com/rejection-sensitive-dysphoria-and-adhd/#comment-50058 Sun, 27 Oct 2019 11:05:42 +0000 https://www.additudemag.com/?p=26088#comment-50058 Dr. Dodson, could you please site the literature supporting this claim: “Rejection sensitivity is part of ADHD. It’s neurologic and genetic. Early childhood trauma makes anything worse, but it does not cause RSD.”

I look forward to your response.

Thank you very much.

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